One of the most terrifying feelings we can experience as humans is that of loneliness. There are times where I enjoy being alone for moments at a time but after a while I always crave interaction and intimacy with another. We’re wired that way. We were not made to be alone.
Loneliness can be so overwhelming because it carries an accompanying partner that is ruthless and relentless. That partner is fear. Show me someone who is lonely and you will also find someone who is scared…ironically enough, scared of being alone.
I believe that loneliness is directly associated with the pain, sadness, emptiness, and loss we experience in life. It comes from the wounds we experience, the failures, and the circumstances that we find ourselves in, and when life just doesn’t turn out the way we expected it to.
Let me add as well that you don’t have to be alone to feel lonely. I know many people that are surrounded by others but have no deep connection with another soul. Interaction is not the same as intimate contact and community that we crave and thrive on.
If I may, let me interject here that I wholeheartedly believe that we are never alone…never, even when we choose to be. Sure, we may feel lonely but our feelings are not always representative of the truth. I may feel that I am worthless but the truth is that I don’t determine my worth…God does…and the truth about that is God says that I am very worthy, valuable, and deserving. So it is with our feelings of loneliness. I am never alone. You are never alone. It is simply impossible.
Why? Because whether you believe it or not, or believe in God or not, they are always with you. Yes, I said they. When we talk about God we must not talk about God in singular terms, but plural. God consist of the three in one, one in three, Father, Son, Spirit. We call it the Trinity but most of us do not understand this mysterious and beautiful reality of God. They are never apart. They are unified in all things. They are separate from one another yet operate in perfect harmony. There is no rivalry among them. They live in community, with a selfless other focused love that consists of endless life and love between them, sharing all things, especially their love for all of creation and have opened up their circle of fellowship for all to live in, dwell in, and enjoy. God with us does not apply solely to Jesus. Far too often Jesus is the sole affection of our attention when there would be no Jesus for us to love if it wasn’t for the dream of the Father to reconcile us through the Son by the Spirit.
What does this have to do with our loneliness, or not aloneness? God is everywhere, all the time. There is nowhere we can run to escape God. There is no situation, no circumstance, and no event that can separate you from God. God has always been, God will always be. Especially in your darkness, your suffering, your abyss. If you are looking for God, they are always present in your hardships…in your loneliness. You may not recognize it, you may not feel it, but I promise you it’s true. This is why we are reminded that there is no fear in love because perfect love drives out fear. It’s not about your love for God being perfect either, it’s about the perfect love between Father, Spirit, Son that has been opened up and offered freely to you.
Wherever you are today, you are not alone. Wherever you are on this journey, you have companions. Is it a quick fix? No, absolutely not. If you are lonely, if you are scared, if you have been beat down and beaten up by life I am by no means belittling those feelings. They are real. I am infusing hope. I am reminding you that no matter how real the feelings, no matter how scary, that you are not alone. God IS with you, sharing in your suffering, feeling every bit of pain and loss that you feel, identifying with your brokenness and offering you an all encompassing, unconditional love, and eternal embrace to fall gently into.
Hope is real. Love is real. Grace is a reality…for you. May you realize today, no matter what you are facing, that you don’t face it alone. The one who holds all things together is indeed holding you too.
Be Blessed Friends…You Already Are!